Five years ago yesterday we found out we were having twins. They were pretty sure they were identical, but they were growing well. Our life was headed for a HUGE change. I remember Willy and I asking the technician if she was joking. We were shocked. And I was really excited. Everyone was. I still remember many details from that day. Riding home from the doctor, thinking how I was going to be a mom of twins. I always wanted twins, not sure why, but I did. I remember telling Dru at work and how excited she was. IT was a huge birthday surprise! She told the entire dining center in one loud announcement. There were phone calls and emails. This was really going to happen.
Here's the first blog post when we announced here and began the journey.
I was so excited to share with the world our experiences being pregnant and raising twins, along with two other boys.
And here I am five years later. I still feel a sting when I wake up on February 18th. I woke up in a bad mood yesterday, but couldn't place it until the afternoon. I know the next three and a half months are going to have some hard moments, days when the tears just flow. I know by now to embrace those days for what they are. They are now moments when I can just stop and concentrate on the two little boys who aren't running around, adding to our wonderful chaos.
I miss them dearly. I hate that there are days when I am just so busy with our four living sons, that they don't cross my mind except for a fleeting thought. Their picture is by the bed, I say goodnight every night. I packed most of their shelf away when we listed the house on the market. I am so looking forward to putting it back up one day when we move.
Five years ago, it hadn't crossed my mind yet that this was the journey laid out for us. There has been incredible heart-wrenching pain, but there has been indescribable joy also. There were days when I didn't believe I would ever be happy again, and now most days I am blown away by happiness I feel.
The healing that has been brought is amazing. I love that there are friends and family that continue to love, mention, remember, and embrace Lucas and Caleb. There will always be a hole where they belong, but being surrounded by such amazing people softens the edges that were once very jagged.